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Love is how you treat someone, not how you feel about them. My dad taught me this without ever saying it. He's not a real emotional guy. He never really said things big and loud. But he was at every game, fixed everything I broke, drove hours out of his way without being asked, and never mentioned it again.

For a long time, I thought that meant something was missing. Then I got older and realized that was the whole thing. That was it. Because feelings are cheap. They come and go and they don't require anything from you. You can feel enormous love for someone and be completely absent from their life.

Plenty of people do exactly that. But showing up on the day you don't feel like it, being patient when they're being difficult, choosing them on a Tuesday when nothing about it is exciting, that costs something. That's the actual thing. Nobody has ever been loved by someone's feelings.

They've only been loved by what those feelings made someone do. So if you want to know where you stand with somebody, don't listen to what they feel. Watch what they do.

don't listen to what they feel. Watch what they do.

Watch what they do.