are they really so bad?

I think we make people out to be worse than they are in our minds. We convince ourselves, especially when we're being hurt over and over and over, that somebody's a monster and they don't have what's best, for us in their minds. They are just narcissistic, they're selfish. But it's weird. When you are in person with them again and you have a conversation and you two

see each other as human beings and not as like these entities in your brain that are at war all the time, you see the humanity and the fact that they can make mistakes you see the humanity in the fact that they can make mistakes. and they're not perfect and nothing is perfect and all the comparisons you make to other relationships that you see online or you see your

friends in they're not yours they'll never be yours and so it gives you this weird crossroads where you have to come to a realization that like you have to forgive people and it doesn't mean that everyone's worth

being forgiven trust me some people are not but if you are just holding resentment towards somebody, do they deserve a second chance? Because how much of that is really their fault, and how much of it is you skewing and creating this narrative about them that makes you feel like you

are a victim of something? I've done that so many times, I've made the other person, a total terror in my life and when you have friends and you tell them one -sided stories you get a one -sided at answer of course they're gonna be like she's terrible he's the worst why are

know answer of course they're gonna be like she's terrible he's the worst why are you still with them but I think it's worth having that conversation with them directly and if you still feel the same after all of that then by all means it's not worth it but if you don't I think you need to pay attention

to that feeling, and I think you need to ask yourself, am I in the wrong? attention to that feeling and I

wrong? attention to that feeling and I