you need to ask them #selfreflection #genz

Being around your crush more is not going to get you a date. Asking them if they want to go out is going to get you a date. And if you're not able to do that, maybe you have to ask yourself why. Why is it so hard? Maybe it's because you were afraid to lose them, right? That's a valid concern. Because you think that there is something to this. You and your mind have already created a future with them where you have kids, a house, and a

dog. But guess what? That isn't reality. Right now, you are sitting in a desk at your school looking at them and trying not to get caught at your 50th glance. Do something. I urge you. If I could tell my younger self something,

some piece of advice, it's that it is better to get rejected in the worst way and have the whole school know about it than to sit in your mind wondering if they would have said yes. And this isn't even to be like, you're going to regret it. It's to be like, You have to learn the skill

of going against your fear and doing something that will challenge your understanding of what is your reality. Because for a lot of us, we think that they're out of our league. We think that we're too ugly. We think that there's no way

they would even talk to us. So we create this weird reality where we're like subhuman. But that's not the case. And even if you do get rejected, the worst thing she could say is no. And let's say she... makes fun of you and says you have like a turtleneck or something. I don't know. It's better that she

showed you your character, right? It's better that she aired you out and you got hurt by it than you selling yourself a lie. and being like I'm never going to get anybody, nobody loves me. That is why I think so many people

have a problem now with just socializing, just being themselves, is they have built a narrative that they are worthless because they never challenged their conception of who they thought they were. So do yourself a favor and challenge it any chance you get.

Just because why not? One day we won't be here. So it might be worth it to give it a shot.

it to give it a shot.