#rant #marriage #vibes

What took me 10 years of marriage to understand in 60 seconds. Let's do it. Number one, you're not arguing about the dishes. You're arguing about respect, effort, and the fact that someone still can't close those cabinet doors. Number two, communication doesn't mean yelling slower. It means listening without planning your comeback in your head. Yeah, I

know it hurts. It hurted me too. Number three, your partner can't read your mind. Drop the hints. Use your words. Like I tell my toddler, use your words. you're not a mystery novel my guy number four saying i'm fine when you are You're not a mystery novel, my guy. Number four, sing. clearly not fine is emotional

terrorism just say you're mad about the tone the socks the vibe or whatever it is just say it number five marriage is not 50 some days it's 80 20 some days it's 10 90 some days it's just two tired people tag teaming survival until bedtime number six you don't fall out of love you stop doing the stuff that built it date each other flirt take some spicy make out like rinse

freaking dude man number seven pick your battles disagreement needs a full -blown ted talk freaking dude man number seven pick your battles not every spicy make out like rinse sometimes you just let it slide because you love them more than being freaking right and to wrap all of this up the goal isn't to win the fight it's to win together if one of you loses both of you lose boom saves you

twenty thousand dollars in counseling now demo me five bucks

twenty thousand dollars in counseling now demo me five bucks